Media Consent Is Its Own Consent
Consent to a scene is not consent to photos. Consent to a photo is not consent to posting it. Consent to posting one image is not consent to posting more.
Treat media as a separate negotiation.
Before Taking Photos
Discuss:
- Is photography allowed?
- Are faces allowed?
- Are tattoos, rooms, names, or documents visible?
- Is nudity allowed?
- Who keeps the files?
- Can either person request deletion?
- Can anything be shared with friends, groups, or online?
Get clear answers before the camera comes out.
Risk Reduction
Reduce identifying details:
- Crop faces
- Hide tattoos or unique marks
- Remove location metadata
- Avoid mirrors and background documents
- Use neutral bedding or walls
- Keep usernames separate from real names
Even careful images can spread. Only create media you are prepared to protect.
Storage
Use secure folders, strong passwords, and private devices. Avoid shared cloud albums, family tablets, work computers, and automatic backup services if privacy matters.
If a relationship ends, follow the deletion agreement immediately.
Posting Online
Before posting:
- Confirm consent again
- Review the exact image or clip
- Agree on caption and tags
- Decide whether comments or messages are allowed
- Avoid sharing details that expose location or identity
No one should be surprised by an upload.
Caregiver Responsibility
Caregivers often hold authority in a dynamic, so they should be especially careful not to pressure a little into media. A shy "I guess" is not enthusiastic consent.
*A camera can turn a private scene into permanent data. Slow down and negotiate accordingly.*