For adults 18+
Rules and routines for a caregiver/little dynamic
The rules and the routine are the spine of a caregiver/little dynamic, and they are the two things most likely to get lost in a chat thread. CaregiverBabyHub gives them one home that both people can see, with reminders that arrive on their own.
The rule list
A rule is a short line of text with some structure attached to it: which part of the dynamic it belongs to, how serious it is, what happens if it is kept, and what happens if it is not.
A caregiver can write the list for their linked little, a little can write their own, or a guided builder can draft a starting set from your answers about the dynamic, which you then edit. Nothing the builder writes is final and nothing is locked in.
- Categories
- Rules are grouped by the part of life they cover, including bedtime and sleep, diapering, speech, privacy, screens and entertainment, mobility, and anything custom you write yourself.
- Severity
- Each rule carries a weight, from minor through moderate to serious, so a forgotten water bottle and a broken safety rule are not treated the same way.
- Consequences
- A rule can carry an agreed consequence: a time-out, corner time, an early bedtime, a lost privilege, lines, or something you write yourself. Nothing fires automatically without the dynamic being set up for it.
- Rewards
- A rule can carry points instead of, or alongside, a consequence. Keeping a rule is worth something, not just avoiding trouble.
- Who set it
- When a caregiver sets rules for a linked little, the little's copy becomes read-only and shows a lock with the caregiver's name on it. It is clear at a glance which rules were handed down and which the little chose.
- Appeals
- A little can appeal a rule from their own screen. The appeal lands in the caregiver's inbox rather than disappearing, and the caregiver answers it.
- Bedtime at 9:30 on weeknights — bedtime, moderate, 5 points a night
- Ask before screens after dinner — screens, minor, early bedtime if missed
- Finish a water bottle twice a day — health, minor, 3 points
- Say when something has gone wrong — safety, serious, no consequence ever
Routines
A routine is an ordered list of steps with times on them. There are morning, daytime, evening and bedtime routines, and you can build your own on top of those.
Each step can carry a reminder, and each one records whether it happened. Over a week that turns into an honest picture of which parts of the routine are working and which one keeps getting skipped at the same point every evening.
- 8:45 — bath and teeth
- 9:00 — pyjamas and a fresh nappy
- 9:10 — one story, chosen by your caregiver
- 9:25 — bottle and lights low
- 9:30 — goodnight message, phone away
The schedule and bedtime
Alongside routines there is a weekly schedule of blocks: what a normal weekday looks like, what a free day looks like, and what changes at the weekend. The app asks once a day which kind of day it is and lays out the rest accordingly.
Bedtime is handled properly rather than as a reminder. A bedtime can be set per day, and when it arrives the app can lock the screen into a bedtime mode until morning. Caregivers can set the time; littles can set their own if there is no caregiver.
There is also a live view that drops you into whatever is happening right now, so a little who is not sure what they are meant to be doing can open one screen and find out.
Keeping track of how it is going
Rules that are kept and rules that are broken are both recorded, with a timestamp and, if the caregiver wants, a note. That record feeds the points balance and the caregiver's overview.
The point of the record is not surveillance. It is that three weeks later, when somebody says the bedtime rule never works, there is something to look at other than two different memories of the same fortnight.
Common questions
- Do I need a caregiver to use the rules?
- No. A little on their own can write their own rules and have the site hold them to them, with the same reminders, points and record. An AI caregiver can hold them instead if you would rather not hold them yourself.
- Can I start from a template instead of a blank page?
- Yes. The guided builder drafts a starting set of rules and routines from your answers about the dynamic, and there are preset rule sets by care level. Everything it produces is editable and nothing is permanent.
- Does the app punish me automatically?
- Only if the dynamic is set up that way, and a caregiver can always review before anything is applied. Consequences are agreed in advance, written down, and can be changed or removed at any time. A safeword stops everything.
- Can rules be temporarily paused?
- Yes. There is a vacation mode that suspends the dynamic without deleting anything, for illness, travel, or a week where it is simply not the right time.
- How many rules can I have?
- There is no cap on the free plan. Most dynamics settle somewhere between five and twenty; the builder will warn you if a list is getting long enough that nobody will remember it.
Try it
Creating a space is free and asks for a pen name, an email and a password. Your real name is never asked for. The tour walks through the app without an account at all.
For consenting adults aged 18 and over.